Jonathan Samuel Cummings
December 18, 1975 – July 12, 2020
No family is perfect…
We argue and we fight. We even stop talking to each other at times.
But, in the end, family is family…The love will always be there.
Writing an obituary should be easy. Right? You jot down some dates and list people’s names. However, somehow, that does not seem like the right thing to do. A friend told me that the obituary is about healing and that it is for the family. Our family sure could use some healing right about now.
My brother Jon passed away on Sunday evening, July 12, 2020. He was a son, a brother, an uncle, a husband, a father and a grandfather. His wife, three children and three grandchildren survive Jon. Our parents grieve the loss of their son and my siblings and I try to deal with the death of our brother.
Family is a funny thing. Often times you look around the room and wonder how in the world we can be family. Personalities, relationships, lifestyles and demons often plague the family unit. Our family is just like that. However, despite all of our differences, Jon loved his family deeply.
The saying is often true, “You always hurt the ones you love”. We have had our fair share of hurting each other. Whether we meant to or not. Now, here we are, all together for the first time in many years. The past pains and disappointments are not gone. Our lifestyles and politics could not be more different. But, none of that seems very important.
Many things were important to Jon. If you knew him, you knew that he enjoyed heavy metal music, his Camaro, good food and history. He was often caught up in a good conspiracy theory. And, if given the chance, he would argue his opinion with great passion. But, there were only a few things that Jon really loved.
Jon loved his children. He struggled a great deal when he did not know that they were safe and all right. He loved fishing. He adored his grandchildren. Nothing gave him more joy than gardening with his Granddaughter. Jon loved a holiday that included a family get together.
Jon was many things. Some of them good and some of them not so good. But one thing for sure he was a family man. Maybe, just maybe, Jon’s final act of love for his family was simply bringing us all together. Despite our sadness, that is something to be happy about.
We hope that if you knew Jon that you will remember the good things about him. If your family is estranged or has unresolved issues. We hope that you will set it all aside for today and be together in love and in memory of Jon.
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